It’s alright, don’t feel bad. It’s not your fault. If you lived before the age of Facebook and Twitter and Instagram, your ex’s name wouldn’t be in the ‘Recently Searched’ section of your social media accounts. It’s only natural to keep tabs on your ex – Who are they dating now? Are they making more money than me? Have they become fat? These are just some of the questions that run through your mind. It’s like a competition. You want to be doing better than them. If they wronged you in some way, you want to be happier than them – because happiness is the best revenge.
Hell, you might even be checking their WhatsApp status if their number is still in your phone. And it isn’t easy to just delete their number or steer clear from their social media accounts. At least not at the beginning, especially if they broke up with you. But no matter how tempted you are to talk to them, don’t drunk dial them and promise that you’ll do absolutely anything to make them happy. It’s very dangerous to promise to do anything – what if they ask you to jump off a cliff? Don’t be surprised if they do. They broke up with you because your absence makes them happy. Therefore the best way to for you to be permanently absent from their lives is for you to jump off a cliff.
Perhaps you could reward yourself for every day that you don’t check their social media. So at the end of the day, if you haven’t checked their social media, you can reward yourself with something nice – like a cookie. But then if you eat too many cookies, you might get fat. And then if your ex stalks your social media and sees that you’ve gained a few pounds in your latest picture, you will have lost a great battle in the ‘Competition of the Exes’. Regardless of how you reward yourself and how much you stalk your ex, it’s probably a good idea to accept that not all relationships are meant to last. And sometimes, the most beautiful relationships are only beautiful because they did not last.